This Is 30

This Is 30 by Christine Barnes

I’ve now been riding the wave that is entering your thirties for six months. And what a ride it has been.

Ending one year and beginning another is as worthy a cause for celebration as any in my book so birthdays are one of the few yearly events I desire to celebrate. I always opt for adventures and enjoying the day with loved ones and my plans for this last birthday were no different as I was putting all work aside to get outside and explore.

I’ve never felt the pressure that can come with turning another year older. I should say I’ve never felt that pressure until the very last day of my twenties, and then it all hit me almost as if all the societal expectations I had been brushing off for years were being stockpiled for this very birthday.

I still didn’t have my shit together at the tender age of 30 and I was fed up. But I realized something, even a few things, after a few espresso martinis and a night to sleep on it.

This Is 30 by Christine Barnes
This Is 30 by Christine Barnes
This Is 30 by Christine Barnes
This Is 30 by Christine Barnes

Penning what I now refer to as my very own rallying cry was really only the beginning of what's been a mammoth turning point for me. The past six months have been packed with their fair share of life lessons:

▹ Reassessing and reframing close relationships has been heartbreaking even though I know it’s better for me in the long run.

▹ The Hot Mess Express is exhausting especially after you realize you’ve been riding it for far too long.

▹ The time required to overcome obstacles and challenges laid out in front of me may be longer than before and that’s frustrating.

▹ Diving deeper into the components of my story and my beliefs, albeit essential, can feel overwhelming at time.

▹ Coming to terms with not being able to do all the things all the time has felt discouraging.

▹ Calling it quits as a Coach and Writer has crossed my mind because building a nontraditional business is hard in every sense of the world and can also be incredibly lonely.


Life is about the journey and embracing and celebrating every step—and misstep—along the way rather than waiting for one life-changing event. It's about exploring, evolving, and emerging.


Entering my thirties has also been all sorts of amazing and a very welcome reminder that there is always light buried within the stretches of darkness.

▹ I’m making room for richer relationships to enter my life. I have a solid group of incredible individuals who accept me across the board and lift me up when I need the support the most. These people are my people.

▹ I’m learning to embrace the mess and to celebrate how far I’ve actually come. I never dreamed I would see the places I’ve visited, meet truly magnificent people from around the world, or work with women and men who are so passionate about making this world a better place.

▹ I’ve remembered that I am one resilient babe! I might not bounce back right away, but you can bet your butt I do bounce back with more strength.

▹ I’ve opened myself and my heart up wider than ever before. That risk has been rewarded with me feeling more comfortable in my skin and with my own quirks with every passing day.

▹ I’m prioritizing what truly matters to me. I choose the people, work, and experiences in my life instead of allowing anyone else to influence how I spend my time.

▹ And I’m marched on with all things coaching and writing because this business I’m building is without question my purpose. I've got big dreams and I will do whatever is required to bring these ideas to life!

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.
— Carlos Castaneda

The biggest theme of the past six months has been unbecoming everything I thought I should be so I can emerge as the person I truly am. It’s been a tough lesson and even rockier transition to say the least, but it’s absofuckinglutely necessary when you want to live a purposeful and impactful life. Honestly, I don't see any other way.

So here's to 30. The dirty, the flirty, and the third life crisis. It's nothing like I expected and I'm positive the next six months will have their own ups and downs, but I promise you the ride is worth it.

This Is 30 by Christine Barnes

A quick aside:

Turning the big 3-0 has inspired me to find my voice as a Woman, Coach, and Writer. The days of playing it safe in case someone reads a post of mine or comes across something I've shared on social media and thinks I'm too opinionated or not enough of something are long gone. Adios!

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