What You Do Ain't Got Nothing on You
Have you ever found yourself spiralling deeper and deeper down the Instagram hole only to surface feeling like you aren’t enough? Maybe you found a profile that was on point both visually and verbally or you stumbled across someone who has tens of thousands of followers and appears to be living the life you dream about day in, day out.
I’ve been there, only my inner critic prefers to add insult to injury when she jumps to the conclusion that the person on the other side of the screen has obviously made it and I’m a failure because I’m clearly still a work in progress. Yeah, she’s a real peach but that’s a conversation for another day.
Either way, we’ve all felt like we aren’t good enough or successful enough or just… enough.
In this day and age of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, so on and so forth and the illusion that a certain amount of followers equates to a specific status, it’s really no wonder why we’ve confused our worth with our titles, social media followings, even our material possessions.
And we aren’t totally to blame for the mix-up because it is impressed upon most of us from a very early age that there are two ways to live your life: one that is acceptable and one that is not with little to no grey area between the two.
The acceptable path is lined with markers of conventional success and, because all we truly desire is to belong, we think nothing of falling in line and following suit. So we—along with society—place an emphasis on things like degrees and titles, debt and credit cards, and the numbers that take up space next to our handles.
It isn’t that what you do isn’t important, it’s that this shouldn’t define you and can never do you justice.
In the simplest of terms, you cannot be defined by any one singular aspect of your life. Your job, hobbies, and aspirations certainly comprise big chunks of your time but I guarantee you there's more to who you are than the work you do or the squares you share.
A title describes only one role. A resume—even the best and the most creative of the bunch—merely lists actions you’ve performed. Your social media standings really have no weight when it comes to whether you have morals or sound judgement. And any label you use is just that-one word that is ultimately failing in trying to sum up just how extraordinary and multidimensional you actually are.
Who we are is expansive and always evolving so what we do is only a part of the story.
When we accept that we are in fact more than our work experiences or cumulative skills listed on any piece of paper, we can also begin to believe that we are more than our imperfections and struggles. And when we can recognize our own magnificence, we can then begin to see and celebrate that in others.
Should you need a reminder of who you are at your core so you can overcome feeling less than for any reason whatsoever, call on your values. Those qualities that combined exemplify your ideal life represent the person you really are.
Put the filters and facades to the side and remember who you are sans the opinions and judgements from others because it’s safe to say that a specific amount of followers or a certain ranking aren’t the priorities at the end of the day.
The point is for you to feel good about what you’re doing and the life you’re building for yourself, and to hell with the rest.
You have a say in what contributes to your worth just as much as you can control what doesn’t matter or make the cut. When you reclaim your worth with your choices, you help to shift the narrative that we are only those numbers and titles that surround our names. And what a world this would be if we valued and honored our humanness more than the profiles and platforms commonly perceived as the entry tickets to acceptance.