Your people will change.
Trust me, this is a good thing.
There’s a lot of talk these days about squads, girl gangs, posses, sisterhoods, so on & so forth. As confusing as all of this lingo may be, it’s a hot topic for a good reason & that reason is connection.
All of us want to share pieces of ourselves with like-minded people with the end goal of feeling like we are part of a greater collective.
This is one of the most essential human needs.
Think back to your younger days when you didn’t have a care in the world and all that mattered was where you & your best friends were hanging after school. From second grade on, my closest relationships were formed with a handful of girls whom I saw everyday & played several different sports with. We were just about inseparable because we spent everyday with one another regardless of the season.
You may have a similar experience with people & friendships from college or university, and I bet you can also name a few (or more!) incredible people who have come into your life since leaving school & entering the world as an adult.
Some people come into your life for a reason, some a season, & some for a lifetime.
Both high school & university years are huge periods in any one person’s life because your mind is expanding as your personal beliefs & opinions begin to take shape. You may have found yourself in a limiting friendship as you came into your own and while it can absolutely suck if & when a relationship falls by the wayside, this is a natural part of life.
Your people may also change if you are an entrepreneur. A mentor, partner, or even your ideal customer/client may begin to look different as both you & your business evolve. Again, this is to be expected as it is an inherent aspect of every business.
We cannot force ourselves to remain in relationships which no longer serve us.
We desire fulfilling & meaningful bonds with those people who fan our soul's flame.
So what happened to my high school squad? Life, that's what.
Each of us went off to separate colleges — some of us slowly lost touch with one another as time passed but some of us still maintain close relationships.
I cherish the relationships I share with those who are closest to me — my people. Of course these people have changed as I've gotten older & my path has taken its necessary turns, but I believe if we are doing this life any justice then we are continually growing & evolving.
Allow me to leave you with this as food for thought on this timeless subject because you will never recognize your people if you first do not put in the soul work.